Wednesday, January 31, 2024

Dealing With Impatience

Dealing With Impatience

Between managing home, office, children's classes, shopping, friendships, and other tasks, do you wish for time to tick as per your schedule? How do you feel whenever you need to wait for anything? Living in a world that expects instant gratification, our patience seems to be fading out. Impatience is more about our lack of self-control, than a lack of time. We want what we want, and we want it immediately. Racing to and fro from one task to another, and one thought to another – we are only adding to stress, aggression and pain. Running towards my goal is not worth leaving patience behind. Let's learn to wait, trusting that everything is accurate, precisely happening when it is meant to. Patience with self, people and situations bring peace, compassion and acceptance. It also gives the power to handle life in the middle of challenges when we don't deplete energy creating impatience, in other scenes. Practicing patience makes us confident and likeable. It is also a sign of royalty and dignity to wait rather than impulsively react. Remind yourself, I am patient in every scene today. I don't hurry myself or others. I handle delays with an energy of ease.


Among the very valuable qualities you nurture, is patience one of them? How easy do you find to remain patient with people and situations on a daily basis, especially when they are not your way? We all exhibit different levels of patience but to practice it, we need to finish the obstacles that come in its way – mostly as irritation, anger, anxiety, fear, doubt or judgment. Even comparison and competition deplete patience. We routinely say – I am busy, I have no patience to hear you…I cannot wait for this traffic to clear… I can't tolerate that music… If we don't want to listen, wait, or persist, we give up our powers to tolerate, adjust or accept. The mind tries to control things which it cannot, and becomes restless. The body receives energy of turbulence from the mind and health suffers. Relationships become fragile. People are doing their best and situations are the way they are meant to be. This understanding creates compassion, kindness and respect. From today, prepare yourself to use patience in every scene, no matter what the day brings.

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Message for the day


To be a giver is to be flexible.


Expression: 
The one who does not expect from others, but is able to give others from whatever resources he has, is the one who is flexible. Being flexible means to be able to recognize the other person's value system and moulding one self according to it without losing touch with one's own value system. 


Experience: When I am a giver, I do not expect others to change according to my value system, but am very easily able to find a way to adapt to the other person's value system. I never expect from others to understand me, but am able to understand others. So there is never any feeling of negativity for anyone.


Tuesday, January 30, 2024

What You Believe Is What You Achieve

What You Believe Is What You Achieve 

Do you wonder where the set of beliefs gathered along life's journey have come from? Whatever you believe about happiness, love, respect, anger or stress were mostly thrusted on you based on your social conditioning. Have you paused to evaluate them, to accept what is right and discard any limiting belief? Every situation is perceived through our belief system. Quite literally our lifestyle relies on it – the quality of our thoughts, feelings, attitude, habits, personality and finally our destiny. This means what we believe has a dominating influence on our destiny. We cannot afford to hold a single wrong belief. The society spread limiting beliefs like: Anger is necessary, Happiness is in achievements, Stress is natural, People and situations decide how I feel, and so on. Believing Anger is necessary, we used anger repeatedly. So even if we wanted to be peaceful, it was temporary. Experiment with a new belief: Anger is damaging, love is the way to get work done. This will make love and happiness natural. Let us replace layers of incorrect beliefs with empowering ones. Remind yourself: I evaluate every belief and adopt what is beneficial. All my beliefs keep me happy, healthy and in harmony with my world.


Have you paused to check how many beliefs you have adopted and lived with, since childhood? Have you evaluated beliefs about yourself other people or about the world, before owning them? Or do you just accept the beliefs instilled in your mind by your family, education, society or your past experiences? Our beliefs are the absolute truths for us. Belief System is comparable to a computer's Operating System. It drives our life - our thoughts, words and behaviour. Holding a single wrong belief can be very damaging. Let us consciously check and change limiting and incorrect beliefs that are holding us from living a beautiful life. Sit back and prepare your mind to check and clear beliefs that are obstacles to your own growth, wellbeing and success.

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Message for the day


To have love for God means to be protected from weaknesses.


Expression: To have love for God means to have love for the perfection that is present within each and every individual, which means to be able to recognise and relate to everyone's specialities. When this is done, automatically one remains free from one's own weaknesses and fears and also from looking at the imperfections in others.


Experience: God's love frees me from all worries and concerns. There will be that close connection with God that will enable me to feel light and easy as God takes care of all my worries and troubles. The faith that God is with me frees me from negativity and so I also find my faith making me an instrument to help others to be free from negativity. I am able to give hope and courage to others too.


Monday, January 29, 2024

Distractions Cannot Heal

Distractions Cannot Heal

All of us go through moments of physical or emotional pain – disappointments, illnesses, relationship issues, failures, fears, stress or grief. We need to begin the healing process at the first trace of pain. But instead, we often shy away from the problem by diverting our mind with distractions like TV, shopping, chatting, games, smoking or anything else. Our pain needs healing, not diversion. Wounds don't subside with distractions, they get deeper when left unattended.


When your mind is disturbed, do you distract it, in the name of de-stressors? Or do you spend time talking to yourself, finding out what is troubling you, comforting the mind and healing the pain? At times, do you rely on other people or on time to heal emotional wounds? When feeling low, we often try to escape the emotional wound by distracting the mind towards shopping, television, holiday or addictions. The mind might not feel the pain, but the pain is still present. And as time passes, it can only get deeper because instead of healing it, we chose to temporarily relieve it. Our wounds of stress, anger or hurt are a result of our wrong thoughts. Spending time with ourselves and creating right thoughts now can heal the wound. Let us not use distractions, or depend on other people, or leave it to time. No-one else can either hurt us or heal us. Face your emotions, find the tool of knowledge and heal it. Remind yourself - I am a healer. No distraction can heal my wound. I heal myself with love and care. I face my emotions. I don't try to escape it by distracting my mind.

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Message for the day


The way to bring about a change is to have the desire to change.


Expression: When there are excuses given not to bring about change, then nothing can ever be changed. There is always blame on others and situations and there is no desire to change. Instead if there is the readiness to take up the responsibility of bringing about a change, there is initiative and commitment. Accordingly, effort is put in and there is success in the desired change.


Experience: Instead of bringing about change as required, if I continue to blame others, I will continue to try to escape from that situation. But if I do so, I find that the same difficulty will occur either with someone else or in some other situation. The easiest thing for me is to change myself. When I have the desire to do so, I find it easily happening and I find help coming from outside also.