Saturday, December 31, 2022

Admitting Mistakes Without Justifying Them

Admitting Mistakes Without Justifying Them

We often hide our mistakes from people, fearing consequences of a punishment and of their opinion about us. Even if they find out what we did, we come up with a justification. Owning up our mistakes, apologizing, realizing and transforming almost always earns us acceptance and respect. Consequences nevertheless come to us, but so will the courage to face them. Start living by your values. Do not compromise on them. Pay attention to being right and doing right. Ensure your thoughts for yourself and others are pure, your words are uplifting, your attitude is humble, your behaviour with people is polite, your actions are righteous and your decisions are beneficial to you and everyone involved. But if you make a mistake, admit it immediately, take responsibility. Don't justify, no matter how severe the consequence is. Become determined to never repeat your mistake. Accept your weaknesses and work on them.


Can you handle a harshly conveyed negative feedback about yourself, with stability? Does admitting to your faults seem hard at those moments? Does your ego drive you to get defensive? People who truly care for us, don't hesitate to point out our weakness or mistake. Their intention is pure, but they may deliver it bluntly. Sometimes they even sandwich one layer of criticism between multiple layers of appreciation. Yet, our ego makes us fear the negative remark and defend ourselves. Received in the right spirit, feedback offers growth and is almost always inevitable. Let us avoid the awkwardness around it by not reacting impulsively. We need to reflect on the suggestions while ignoring the energy of criticism it came with. Let's be authentic, own up mistakes and make feedback a pleasant experience rather than a bitter one. Remind yourself everyday - I am open to feedback about myself. Keeping my self-respect intact, I admit my mistakes, transform and move forward with dignity. I am an honest being. I come out stronger and wiser by admitting to my wrongdoings and not justifying them.

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Message for the day


To understand is to be easy and light.


Expression: 
Life brings obstacles and difficulties. They do not come to stop or hinder progress. They can strengthen and help in bringing progress with more experience. To understand this is to keep advancing. Understanding this aspect means to know that it is not always necessary to find a solution, it is enough to keep moving forward, leaving the obstacle behind. 


Experience: True understanding is to understand what the solution of the problem is and bring it into my own life accordingly. When I am able to understand this instead of focusing too much on the problem, I am able to remain happy. This brings a lot of inner lightness and ease and thereby I am able to use all my strength in bringing about solutions.


Friday, December 30, 2022

Stop Running The Race … Enjoy The Present Moment (Part 4)

Stop Running The Race … Enjoy The Present Moment (Part 4)

It is also important to keep a balanced mind, while we are working on something. Anger, aggression, ego or greed can create imbalance in our thoughts. When we experience being ourselves and are at ease with life, we feel the energy to adventure into anything that's possible. If we are able to balance effort with ease, we are still moving towards our goals and with an equal amount of aspiration, but at the same time, appreciating the flow of life with it. When we are able to realize that it is ultimately virtues like joy, freedom and happiness that are important for us, these virtues act as a compass to help us direct our efforts towards our goals with more peace and composure. Being in touch with our original values and positive feelings in every situation helps us in making correct life decisions. When efforts are accompanied by only a lose attachment to the goal, we experience a flow. Perfect people, places or opportunities arise for us, without feeling that too much effort went into it. This success may or may not look like success to everybody, but to us, it will feel so. 


Practicing meditation and detachment can help us remain in soul consciousness and emphasize experiencing being over doing. Our health, inner well-being and own definition of success is more important than any job, salary, degree or anyone else's opinion about us. We can, therefore, consciously create a situation of peace and happiness, where the rising tide of expectation is controlled. We are then no longer troubled by unfulfilled needs and even the most ordinary experiences become enjoyable.

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Message for the day


To move towards perfection is to have commitment for goodness.


Expression: 
The one who has a desire to move towards perfection is constantly busy trying to add goodness and positivity to everything he does. The aim is not just to keep out negativity but it becomes more important to add positivity. So such a person finds constant progress in his life and slowly moves towards perfection. 


Experience: When I find little excuses to bring about positivity, I am able to enjoy each and every moment. I never find anything ordinary or waste but everything is meaningful and beautiful. I am able to enjoy the richness of each and everything and discover the hidden treasures in each and every moment. I find myself slowly moving towards perfection.


Thursday, December 29, 2022

Stop Running The Race … Enjoy The Present Moment (Part 3)

Stop Running The Race … Enjoy The Present Moment (Part 3)

We should also free ourselves from the belief that it is only the future which counts the most. In this treadmill of achieving socially valid goals, we keep trying to win a prize that eventually dissolves in our own hands, before we even feel the slightest of happiness of having achieved it. We also fail to notice so many potentially fulfilling experiences of the present in this race. The most crucial step in freeing ourselves is the ability to find rewards in the events of each moment. If we learn to enjoy and find meaning in the ongoing stream of experience, the burden of stress for achieving something often falls down from one's shoulders. Inner power returns when rewards are no longer externally connected. We learn to enjoy the genuine rewards of life and stop running after the prize that is sometimes just out of reach.


Once we have defined our goals, the learnings gained from overcoming obstacles along the way, leave us feeling more skilled, unique and capable. In the process of getting these individual accomplishments, an attitude of collaboration and co-operation with others can add a sense of harmony and fulfillment in life. We learn to be more sensitive to life, when we cultivate a space for care and respect for other souls and their ideas and lives that are beyond the physical self. This human integration and flow makes the present more enjoyable and it adds self-confidence to us, which allows us to build skills and also make significant contributions to our family, friendships, workplace and society.


(To be continued tomorrow …)

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Message for the day


To let go of worry of the problem is to find the right solution.


Expression: 
When the mind is caught up with any problem there is a great difficulty in finding solutions. Instead when the mind is free from worry, it finds the answers that lie within. So whatever the kind of situations or problems, the one who is free from worry is the one who is able to respond to the situation in the right way. Nor does such a person take time in making decisions during challenging times. 


Experience: When I only continue to worry about my problems it is like cursing the darkness. It will not bring light. All I need to do is light a little lamp and I will find the light coming in slowly spreading all around. I find that it is very easy to find the solutions that are already within me.