Thursday, June 30, 2022

The Role Play Of Thoughts In Relationships (Part 2)

The Role Play Of Thoughts In Relationships (Part 3)

Parent-child relationships are the foundation of our complete life. The earliest habits that children acquire in their lives are from their parents. Very often parents try and impose positive habits on their children. A very common trend that we see nowadays where parents will scold their child for common negative actions like getting angry, for lying to them, for watching inappropriate stuff on different mediums of technology like television and the internet or for getting involved in relationships with the opposite gender at a young age or even smoking and drinking. Very commonly parents are not satisfied with the change brought about by children by following the rules that they have set for them, causing parent-child relationships to get strained. Why is it that inspite of children knowing that parents are concerned for them, do not listen to their instructions and continue with the negative habits? A more powerful medium than words, which reaches children on a physical level, is the personality radiation of the parents which works on children. It reaches them faster than and much before the words do. Parents dictate the change but don't be the change. What that means is similar habits of lust, anger, greed, attachment, ego etc. exist inside them which keep travelling to the children on a subtle energy level. These negative energies influence their minds negatively much sooner than positive words in the form of instructions, leaving the words as good as ineffective.


Also considering another common relationship that children have, the one with their school teachers. Many investigations confirm that teachers' expectations, whether negative or positive, form one of the most influential factors in the academic performance of their students. If teachers expect good results from their students and have complete faith and confidence that they will succeed, their performance will be much closer to their real capacity than if they are expecting poor results. Very often in schools, the teachers' words regarding the performance of the children are not a direct reflection of their thoughts. Their words are full of faith and hope in the students' success but thoughts are lacking in optimism with regards to the same. Negative thoughts of fear of probable failure of the children, in the minds of teachers, inspite of positive words of encouragement, negatively influence impressionable minds of children. This leads to their poor show in school exams.

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Message for the day


Victory is guaranteed to the ones who are constantly loving.


Expression: The ones who are loving are able to involve others in everything they do with their love. So whatever the task maybe, they find it to be very easy and are able to accomplish the biggest task with ease.  Also each task done by them is with love and so everything is done with lightness and so victory is guaranteed.


Experience: When I am loving and do everything with love, I constantly experience lightness, based on the blessings from others.  I am carefree as there is no heaviness of the task to be performed. Love transforms labour into entertainment.  My internal lightness enables me to do the biggest task with great ease, involving everyone with love.

Wednesday, June 29, 2022

The Role Play Of Thoughts In Relationships (Part 2)

The Role Play Of Thoughts In Relationships (Part 2)

Husband-wife relationships, sometimes, are like castles of sand, extremely pleasing to the eye, but based on weak foundations and susceptible to destruction. This happens when they are challenged by negative tides of clash of opinions, personalities or lifestyles. In such relationships, the castles look good from outside because of energies like acceptance, trust, understanding and letting go existing on the surface. These positive energies are displayed by both partners to each other in the form of words, gestures and actions. But these castles can easily collapse because the foundations of these castles are weak. The foundations are thoughts and feelings carried by the partners in their minds, which are filled with expectations, rejection, mistrust, misunderstandings, possessiveness and suspicion at times. These exist along with the positive emotions which are displayed in actions. Also both partners feel they have made their respective positive contributions in the relationship and so the same is expected from the other side, which is not fulfilled at times, further increasing the problems in the relationship. At the same time, both partners are not aware of the negative emotional, much more powerful forces that exist inside them, which go against the positive contribution. These negative energies are silently working on the castle of the relationship from below, ready to bring it down anytime.   


Another e.g. - in corporate circles, apart from the external objective of profit making and generation of revenue and jobs, an important internal objective of any good corporate organization is creating a peace, love and happiness filled as well as obstacle free atmosphere in the company. This will be helpful to the external objective. One spiritual principle states that the leader or CEO or Managing Director of the organization is like a seed of the organization. His every thought reaches out to and influences every person of the organization as well as the organization as a whole. A second spiritual principle states that the internal ruling and controlling power of a leader of an organization is directly proportional to the handling (of the people of the organization) power of the leader. If in the inner boundaries of the leader's mind, obstacles of waste and negative thoughts exist i.e. the inner atmosphere of the leader's mind is not full of peace, love and joy, then as per the first spiritual principle, this gets transmitted to the people under the leader. Also, as per the second spiritual principle, such a leader who is lacking in mind ruling power and mind controlling power is automatically lacking in handling power of people under him. Such a leader, due to the application of both these principles, is ineffective in creating a positive environment in the organization.     


(To be continued tomorrow …)

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Message for the day


To be a judge of the self means to be free from judging others.


Expression: The one who becomes the judge of the self and not that of others, is free from criticising others unnecessarily.  Such a person also does not plead his own case by giving excuses and proving himself right.  So he is able to bring about a positive change in himself and others are able to take inspiration from the change that he brings in his own life. 

Experience: When I am free from giving excuses and reasons for things going wrong, specially to myself, I am able to experience progress in my life.  For everything that happens, instead of blaming others I am able to take some new learning and use it for my own self-progress.  I am able to remain light because I have no expectations from others, but am able to bring about a change in them through my actions.

Tuesday, June 28, 2022

The Role Play Of Thoughts In Relationships (Part 1)

The Role Play Of Thoughts In Relationships (Part 1)

Relationships can be defined on the surface as a state in which two or more people are connected, the state of being related or interrelated. If the definition is expanded, the way in which two people, talk to, regard and behave towards each other, and deal with each other. Spirituality sees relationships from a deeper perspective – relationships are not only what we do or say to each other, but are built on the basis of what we think about each other. So relationships, when seen from a spiritual view point, are an exchange of energy at the level of thoughts and feelings, and then words and actions thereafter. 


Relationships are one of the most important wealth of our lives and one of the most important sources of our happiness. In order to make them successful i.e. to create the wealth of positive relationships and to experience joy through them continuously, it is important to base them on the right belief systems. One major incorrect belief that we carry inside ourselves with regards to our relationships is that relationships are all about behaving and talking in the right manner. This is because we think people see, know and judge only what we speak and do, they do not sense what we think, and so we don't give enough significance to our thoughts. But thoughts are more in number and being a more powerful and subtle energy, travel faster than words. When we interact with someone let us take care that along with the right actions, our thoughts are also right. If we have negative thoughts containing any type of negativity of hatred, greed, jealousy, resentment, selfishness, ego, etc. and we perform positive actions filled with the energy of virtues, neither will we be internally content nor will we be able to satisfy the other person. In all our relationships, it is the intention, the packets of thought energy or vibrations that we transmit, which matter more than the action. Giving significance to the inner intentions while coming into relationships is true transparency in relationships. 


We shall further highlight the significance of thought energy in relationships using four examples in the next two days' messages.

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Message for the day


Let there be a positive record of always talking with regard.


Expression: When I have regard for others, there are good wishes expressed through my words. Such words are totally free from the slightest bit of negativity and bring a very positive result.  When words are positive, they are few but essenceful.  So they have a lot of impact on others.

Experience: When I have regard for others, I will be able to keep myself free from negative and waste words.  So I'll naturally find every word of mine being used in a positive and powerful way.  So I find only accumulation and no waste through my words.  My energy is saved and others too would have only good wishes for me.