Reversing The Flow Of Love In Relationships

Reversing The Flow Of Love In Relationships If we ask someone who do they think has caused them the most sorrow in life, most will point out to someone they love or had loved a lot. Why is it so? It happens like that because we believe that the energy of love will come from the outside and will fill us inside. The energy of love from the other will fulfill our inner desire for the experience of love. Due to our own need, we attach ourselves and hold on to a particular person whom we love a lot, believing that they will fill us with the love that they possess inside them, which will make us stronger, fuller and more content. So we start depending on the other person for this need. When he/she is not able to fill us, which happens many times, we experience sorrow. Love is an energy, which exists inside us. It always goes from the inside out and reaches out to the other and brings benefit to the other. It does not come from the outside in.  If we try and reverse the flow of love i.e. we make the energy of love come from outside in, we start depending on the outside for love, which results in the vacuuming effect. When you vacuum to clean your living room, you absorb the good and the bad. If you have dropped something very small, but valuable and of utmost importance to you, on your carpet, the vacuum cleaner absorbs it or takes it away, together with the dust, which is negative and of no value to you and which you do not want inside your home. When you live with the vacuuming effect on an emotional level, you absorb the love, care, concern, qualities, powers, specialties, energy, etc. of the person you love but you also end up absorbing their weaknesses, their worries, their fears, etc. That way, a dependency is generated that is counter-productive and causes emotional pain. That does not mean we become cold and stop accepting love from others, but we are no longer dependent on it for our inner well-being and happiness. Also, on the other hand, we keep radiating or giving love. When we give love, we experience it ourselves first and that's what we want - an experience of love, isn't it? Message for the day Truth never needs to be proved. Expression: When the truth of what is said is challenged, there is naturally a protest. Words spoken after that are usually defensive and argumentative. This leads only to waste talk and arguments because no one is willing to listen at that time. But truth is that which is revealed on it own and never needs to be proved.   Experience: When I recognise the fact that I am right and am aware of this, I never feel the need to prove it. I never argue my point but have the self-respect of what I am. So even if I am challenged I remain unaffected. I understand that a real diamond shines on even when it is lying with stones or covered with dust. In Spiritual Service Brahma Kumaris Watch Awakening TV on TATAPLAY # 1084 | GTPL # 578 | JioTv# 1060 | InDigital # 996 | NXTDigital # 984 Watch Peace of Mind TV on TATAPLAY # 1065 | Airtel Digital TV # 678 | DishTv# 1087 | JioTV# 794 Videocon D2H # 1221 | SunDirectTV # 496 © 2024 Brahma Kumaris

Rising Above Limits And Mental Barriers (Part 3)

Rising Above Limits And Mental Barriers (Part 3) When a mental limit has been set in our minds, the first thing one needs to do is look inwards and check it. The next step is to change it with the help of mental strength and spiritual power, without which the limit continues to dominate our personalities. This process is called – check and change. So, the weak personality characteristic in the form of a mental barrier which is influencing our thought patterns is first checked. It is then erased (removed) or transformed (changed) into a powerful nature characteristic which then is able to dominate the limit set and bring it down. Also, we need to stand back from the weak thought patterns, observe them and steer or change their direction from a negative frame of mind to a positive one. This is another method of working on winning or lifting the barrier. A person who is constantly thinking about failure needs to check that personality characteristic. Also, he needs to check the number of thoughts that he creates in one particular day which are focused on the possibility of failure in his life. He then needs to change them to affirmations or positive thoughts of success. These thoughts should be accompanied by visualizing the success repeatedly in a complete day with no room for the weak thoughts and images of possible failure to enter his mind.  There are 3 types of people – the first type are neither able to check and as a result they are not able to change. The second type are sensitive enough to check but they do not have the power to transform or change the direction of the thought patterns. This is either due to lack of the power of determination or they are determined but lack the mental strength to do that. The third type can check and change both and overcome the limit and mental barrier with their mental strength. There are various methods of increasing mental strength. Some of them are – creating positive and powerful thoughts related to the virtues of peace, love, joy, bliss, purity, power and truth. Also, thinking deeply or churning spiritual knowledge listened to or read in the morning. Another method is meditation. Meditation is a connection between the soul and the Supreme Being or God. Message for the day True love means the ability to forgive and forget. Expression: When there is love there is the ability to look at only specialities. Even if the other person makes a mistake, there is only the conscious awareness of his specialities. So it becomes easy to forgive the mistake committed by him. When there is real forgiveness the mistake is totally forgotten and the future interactions with that person are free from the negative attitude. Experience: When I am able to forgive the mistakes made by others, I am able to forget them easily also. So my mind is free from the burden of waste of all the past mistakes. So I am able to be light even when I am faced with the negativity of the other person. I am never caught up with attitudes about people so I am successful in my relationship with others. In Spiritual Service Brahma Kumaris Watch Awakening TV on TATAPLAY # 1084 | GTPL # 578 | JioTv# 1060 | InDigital # 996 | NXTDigital # 984 Watch Peace of Mind TV on TATAPLAY # 1065 | Airtel Digital TV # 678 | DishTv# 1087 | JioTV# 794 Videocon D2H # 1221 | SunDirectTV # 496 © 2024 Brahma Kumaris

Rising Above Limits And Mental Barriers (Part 1)

Rising Above Limits And Mental Barriers (Part 1) TRising above mental limitations, which are obstacles in our life journey and slow our progress towards our life goals, is an important spiritual skill that we need to be trained in. A limitation or a barrier is a self created thought which reduces our power of determination and power to succeed in any life sphere. Suppose I have a broken relationship with a loved one, like a parent or a sibling (brother or sister) or a life partner. This causes a belief to set inside my mind that I have been unsuccessful in handling a relationship well. The belief can result in a negative perception that all relationships are sorrow giving. When that perception then starts flowing in our actions and people whom we are close to do not receive the positive energy from us which they should, it starts affecting relationships negatively. Also, sometimes we do not know why a particular person is distancing himself from us when our words and actions towards the person are what they are expecting? In these cases, our mind has been imprisoned by an incorrect belief like the one shared above and that has affected our perception of the other person negatively. The energy of that perception constantly travels to the other person and hits him or her which causes the other person to respond to us in a manner which is different from what we would like them to. So, the mental limit is in the background in these cases. It is a self-limiting thought or series of thoughts which we constantly create either consciously or sub-consciously. Suppose, I have fared badly in a school exam in one year. As a result, I have formed a series of mental barriers in our mind like – I am not so sharp or competitive or I am a nervous exam giver or I am not so intelligent or I cannot succeed. Such barriers are strong mental forces which are like hammers hitting on our mind and personality. This causes a negative impact on future events of the same nature, in this case the giving of another school exam.  (To be continued tomorrow …)  Message for the day Love creates the right environment for others' positive growth. Expression: Where there is love, a natural environment for others' growth is created. Love gives the ability to perceive the positivity in others and gives the encouragement to others to bring about that positivity and use it for the benefit of the self and others.   Experience: When I have love for others, along with perceiving their specialities, I am also able to recognise and use my specialities and inner powers more and more. Knowing and using these specialities is naturally for the benefit of those around me. This gives me an inner experience of power which makes me a constant giver and a support for those around me. In Spiritual Service Brahma Kumaris Watch Awakening TV on TATAPLAY # 1084 | GTPL # 578 | JioTv# 1060 | InDigital # 996 | NXTDigital # 984 Watch Peace of Mind TV on TATAPLAY # 1065 | Airtel Digital TV # 678 | DishTv# 1087 | JioTV# 794 Videocon D2H # 1221 | SunDirectTV # 496 © 2024 Brahma Kumaris