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Soul Sustenance 19-04-2021
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Emotional Detoxification (Part 3)
We saw the impact of listening to people who talk to us about things we can do nothing about, and decided that we stop listening to them. To do this, most of us tend to tell the other person Let us not waste our time. Actually we must say Let us conserve our energy. We may all have time on our side but we are already weak emotionally. Indulging in waste conversations depletes us further.
Below options help us to stay away from negative emotional diet. Using any of them will be beneficial to us, to the person talking to us, and to the one being talked about.
Option 1: Have the power and ability to decline politely but assertively that we do not want to listen about anyone else's issues, sanskars or behavior. We need to handle the situation exactly the way we consciously watch our physical diet - we refuse certain eatables, regardless of how tempting they are, or how lovingly they are offered. Let us extend this discipline here by plainly refusing poor emotional diet.
Option 2: Progress the conversation from being problem-oriented to solution-oriented. Shift the focus on how the person talking to us should handle the situation, so that issues he has with the other person are resolved. We are then discussing about the sanskar of the person talking to us and not about the sanskar of the person who is not present.
Option 3: Shift perspective of the person talking to us. We can help them look at all the positives in the person they are talking about. When complaining about someone, people fail to acknowledge the good qualities of the person they complain about.
Option 4: Let us not be passive listeners, quietly nodding at everything being said. It amounts to our endorsement of the views. Too often, we hear out someone in the name of courtesy, obligation, or fear that our refusal to listen will hurt our relationship. Just as we do not feel bad when refusing to eat anything unhealthy for the body, we should refuse anything unhealthy for our mind. Its good for us and them.
(To be continued tomorrow …)
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Message for the day 19-04-2021
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To recognise the uniqueness of my own personality is to be free from negative influence.
Projection: The one who is aware of one's own uniqueness is able to create a strong influence on others of his own personality. So, such a person is not negatively influenced by anyone's personality traits. Even when there is a person with a very strong personality, he is still able to be free from negative influence.
Solution: When I am able to recognise and use the specialities that are within me, I am able to remain powerful within. In all circumstances and with all people I experience this innate power. Because I am constantly in touch with my own specialities, I am able to be light and happy.
In Spiritual Service,
Brahma Kumaris | Facebook | Youtube | Twitter | Instagram | Pinterest | Flickr | Linkedin | Soundcloud | Location | Website | Intl Website
Soul Sustenance 19-04-2021
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Emotional Detoxification (Part 3)
We saw the impact of listening to people who talk to us about things we can do nothing about, and decided that we stop listening to them. To do this, most of us tend to tell the other person Let us not waste our time. Actually we must say Let us conserve our energy. We may all have time on our side but we are already weak emotionally. Indulging in waste conversations depletes us further.
Below options help us to stay away from negative emotional diet. Using any of them will be beneficial to us, to the person talking to us, and to the one being talked about.
Option 1: Have the power and ability to decline politely but assertively that we do not want to listen about anyone else's issues, sanskars or behavior. We need to handle the situation exactly the way we consciously watch our physical diet - we refuse certain eatables, regardless of how tempting they are, or how lovingly they are offered. Let us extend this discipline here by plainly refusing poor emotional diet.
Option 2: Progress the conversation from being problem-oriented to solution-oriented. Shift the focus on how the person talking to us should handle the situation, so that issues he has with the other person are resolved. We are then discussing about the sanskar of the person talking to us and not about the sanskar of the person who is not present.
Option 3: Shift perspective of the person talking to us. We can help them look at all the positives in the person they are talking about. When complaining about someone, people fail to acknowledge the good qualities of the person they complain about.
Option 4: Let us not be passive listeners, quietly nodding at everything being said. It amounts to our endorsement of the views. Too often, we hear out someone in the name of courtesy, obligation, or fear that our refusal to listen will hurt our relationship. Just as we do not feel bad when refusing to eat anything unhealthy for the body, we should refuse anything unhealthy for our mind. Its good for us and them.
(To be continued tomorrow …)
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Message for the day 19-04-2021
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To recognise the uniqueness of my own personality is to be free from negative influence.
Projection: The one who is aware of one's own uniqueness is able to create a strong influence on others of his own personality. So, such a person is not negatively influenced by anyone's personality traits. Even when there is a person with a very strong personality, he is still able to be free from negative influence.
Solution: When I am able to recognise and use the specialities that are within me, I am able to remain powerful within. In all circumstances and with all people I experience this innate power. Because I am constantly in touch with my own specialities, I am able to be light and happy.
In Spiritual Service,
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