Being Non-Judgmental In Relationships

As family, friends or colleagues we expect people around us to share their thoughts and feelings with us. But sometimes when they are upset or they make a mistake, they do not share it with us. They fear that we will become judgmental about them, reject them and react impulsively. So instead of talking to their loved ones, today people are preferring to confide in counsellors who are non-judgmental.

Take this moment to see how you comfort people, being a counsellor to them, by being non-judgmental.

Affirmation -

I am a loveful being. I am compassionate towards everyone. I adjust ... I accept each one as they are. I radiate love and acceptance unconditionally... irrespective of who they are and how they behave. Acceptance and not expectations is natural for me. I understand that people I meet today will have different natures and qualities. Someone can be emotionally disturbed…someone could have made a mistake…even the biggest mistake…or someone could be in a dilemma. When they talk to me…. as a family member, friend, colleague… I internally withdraw and watch the quality of my thoughts and feelings towards them. I check my intentions and the attitude with which I am interacting with them…I keep them positive and pure…non-judgmental…I play the role of a counsellor… a facilitator who empathizes with them. I respect their feelings…I do not get affected by their behaviour and words ... They are different from me. I do not label anyone as wrong or bad. I don't waste my energy judging them…criticising them…rejecting them. What they say or do may not be right for me, but as of now it is their truth ... it is right for them. I don't create a thought that they are wrong or bad. I understand they are different. My acceptance radiates positive energy. My acceptance helps me get their acceptance. They feel healed…they feel comfortable talking to me…I listen to them attentively…caringly. I advise, instruct or discipline ... with love and respect.

Repeat this affirmation a few times to not be judgmental about people. With that you accept them as they are and build strong relationships. You will also not hold them responsible for your emotions.

Message for the day

To check regularly means to bring about a change.

Expression: When there is any negative action performed, there is an immediate feeling of guilt and a desire not to perform it again. But the checking also needs to be at a level where it never repeats again. Maintaining a chart of one's own weakness means checking regularly. Such checking brings about a permanent change.

Experience: When I am able to maintain a chart where I could monitor my own progress, I am able to remain committed to my transformation. Adverse situations or people will never deter me, but I am able to bring about the desired change. I am able to continue the process of transformation even when what I seek to change is not harmful in the present phase of my life. Thus regular checking will prevent carelessness from creeping in.