A large number of people are suffering from depression in the world today. This is a hint for us to pause and ask if we are doing enough for our mental wellness, which is directly connected to emotional wellness. If we experience stress, anger, fear, hurt, jealousy, our emotional health suffers. Basically, we are caught in these negative emotions in search of happiness. Most of us begin chasing dreams since childhood and do not pause after that for many years, because of the biggest incorrect belief that our happiness is what we acquire — that happiness is a result of the belongings that we have. So, we seek happiness in achievements, possessions and relationships. Let us take a look at these three popular but incorrect happiness beliefs -
Belief 1: Achievements make me happy. Suppose I am an employee who knows that it takes two years to be promoted as a manager, I sincerely work for it. But my own conditioned thought often reminds me - I will be happy when promoted as a manager. So, I do not permit myself to be happy today, I will not permit for two more years. Some day if I sense that my promotion may not happen due to my inefficiency, issue with team members or a management decision, I create stress, anger and anxiety - as I believe these are not only affecting my career but snatching my happiness. I may use unfair methods to get the promotion. So, I create and transmit negativity, going into pain for two long years. If in this state I become a manager, can I be happy? Also, such happiness does not last as I will focus on the next promotion, then the next...
Truth: Happiness is not in our achievements. It is not to be postponed until our goal is reached. Happiness is in our way of thinking along the way, while working towards the goal.
Tomorrow we shall discuss two other common happiness beliefs.
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