| The power of influence in relationships is extraordinary, but it practically disappears when we try to exercise control and force.
You can influence anyone positively in many ways:
- encouraging, - sharing, - listening, - communicating in the right way.
In negative control we generate stress, frustration and anger. In positive influence the energy flows in a relaxed way with harmony and is not threatening, respecting each one for their specialty and allowing each one to be as they are. In order to influence positively we need the power of discrimination and judgement with regards to what to think, speak and do e.g. when you believe that the other person is the problem; generally the problem is not what others speak or do, but rather how you perceive them. The way you discriminate and judge the situation is what creates your negative feelings about them. We have the choice to perceive others as a threat, as a problem or as an opportunity; an opportunity for learning, for self-change, for dialogue and understanding. We can choose to have compassion; to feel that the other is a problem indicates a lack of compassion. |
