Wednesday, June 29, 2022

The Role Play Of Thoughts In Relationships (Part 2)

The Role Play Of Thoughts In Relationships (Part 2)

Husband-wife relationships, sometimes, are like castles of sand, extremely pleasing to the eye, but based on weak foundations and susceptible to destruction. This happens when they are challenged by negative tides of clash of opinions, personalities or lifestyles. In such relationships, the castles look good from outside because of energies like acceptance, trust, understanding and letting go existing on the surface. These positive energies are displayed by both partners to each other in the form of words, gestures and actions. But these castles can easily collapse because the foundations of these castles are weak. The foundations are thoughts and feelings carried by the partners in their minds, which are filled with expectations, rejection, mistrust, misunderstandings, possessiveness and suspicion at times. These exist along with the positive emotions which are displayed in actions. Also both partners feel they have made their respective positive contributions in the relationship and so the same is expected from the other side, which is not fulfilled at times, further increasing the problems in the relationship. At the same time, both partners are not aware of the negative emotional, much more powerful forces that exist inside them, which go against the positive contribution. These negative energies are silently working on the castle of the relationship from below, ready to bring it down anytime.   


Another e.g. - in corporate circles, apart from the external objective of profit making and generation of revenue and jobs, an important internal objective of any good corporate organization is creating a peace, love and happiness filled as well as obstacle free atmosphere in the company. This will be helpful to the external objective. One spiritual principle states that the leader or CEO or Managing Director of the organization is like a seed of the organization. His every thought reaches out to and influences every person of the organization as well as the organization as a whole. A second spiritual principle states that the internal ruling and controlling power of a leader of an organization is directly proportional to the handling (of the people of the organization) power of the leader. If in the inner boundaries of the leader's mind, obstacles of waste and negative thoughts exist i.e. the inner atmosphere of the leader's mind is not full of peace, love and joy, then as per the first spiritual principle, this gets transmitted to the people under the leader. Also, as per the second spiritual principle, such a leader who is lacking in mind ruling power and mind controlling power is automatically lacking in handling power of people under him. Such a leader, due to the application of both these principles, is ineffective in creating a positive environment in the organization.     


(To be continued tomorrow …)

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Message for the day


To be a judge of the self means to be free from judging others.


Expression: The one who becomes the judge of the self and not that of others, is free from criticising others unnecessarily.  Such a person also does not plead his own case by giving excuses and proving himself right.  So he is able to bring about a positive change in himself and others are able to take inspiration from the change that he brings in his own life. 

Experience: When I am free from giving excuses and reasons for things going wrong, specially to myself, I am able to experience progress in my life.  For everything that happens, instead of blaming others I am able to take some new learning and use it for my own self-progress.  I am able to remain light because I have no expectations from others, but am able to bring about a change in them through my actions.