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Soul Sustenance 11-06-2013
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Fears And Dependencies In Relationships
Relationships are a source of support for our life, or at least, they should be.
Relationships should ideally be an exchange of happiness and love. Peaceful relationships
are the foundation from where we create, generate and carry out shared endeavors
(efforts). Thanks to cooperation, we achieve our objectives.
When people are asked about what the different causes of stress, worries and suffering
are, one of the main answers is relationships. Relationships have become a cause
of ties (bondage) and pain. Instead of trust it seems fear dominates in relationships.
In a relationship of love - be it family, be it friendship - due to emotional weaknesses
and a lack of self-esteem, in order to learn to love ourselves we need another person
or people to value us, to appreciate us, to need us, to love us. Even so, we do
not manage to learn to love ourselves and we continue to depend on and worry about
the opinion of others, what others might say, think or feel about us. You fear the
answer of others; you fear they might say something that hurts you. These fears
arise out of the emotional dependence on this person or these people. And they (fears)
prevent us from developing and expressing all our potential, meaning that we stop
being ourselves and we fear sharing ourselves openly.
(To be continued tomorrow …)
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Message for the day 11-06-2013
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True service is to spread the light of happiness to all around.
Projection: In any negative situation, the usual reaction is to feel disheartened
and unhappy. With this reaction to the situation, the people around too are affected
as the unhappiness spreads around. Focusing this way only on the problem creates
such negativity that it doesn't inspire anyone to work for a solution.
Solution: Instead of spreading unhappiness in a difficult situation by seeing
the negative aspect, we need to think of how to bring a solution. Even if we can't,
we need to look at some positive aspect in it that will enable us to maintain our
own positivity. When we keep ourselves happy in this way, we will be able to spread
this happiness to others too.
In Spiritual Service,
Brahma Kumaris