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Soul Sustenance 22-03-2013
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The Three Root Causes Of Anger (Part 3)
We are at war with our self when we fail to make the world do exactly what we want,
or we believe we have let our self down. An e.g. of a war with one self
is – Suppose you are standing in a queue waiting for your chance to arrive, only
to discover an hour later, just when your chance is about to arrive, that the time
for the counter to close has come and the counter has closed. You get upset, but
with whom? Perhaps the person at the counter at first and may be with the other
people in the queue and then with yourself, for not having found out the time of
closing of the counter. There are two failures that make you uneasy here. First
you failed to ask someone early enough, which would have saved you the hour time
loss. Second, you failed to control your emotions of anger. Although you might not
externally admit that you failed, inside you know. Because of these two failures,
you then start to get angry with yourself. The thought pattern that goes
inside your mind: to fail is to lose, to lose is to be sorrowful, to be sorrowful
causes me to become angry, as you look for an external cause of your sadness which,
in this case, is initially the person at the counter and the other people in the
queue (who would have known the time of closing and could have told you). So you
demonstrate to others your justified anger towards them. But deep inside you know
it is you yourself that has made you sorrowful.
As the anger builds up inside you, again, after a while, you find someone else outside
on whom you vent out your anger. You seem to feel better as a result, but it's only
temporary. The next time you become angry; interrupt the pattern of your anger by
asking yourself two simple questions: Who are you fighting a war with? Answer: Yourself.
Who is suffering the most due to the war? Answer: Yourself. And if your anger is
directed at yourself for your own supposed failure then just tell yourself, "There
is no such thing as failure, only a different result from the one that I expected
and results are not going to be exactly as I want, expect or desire. That is a rule
of the game of life."
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Message for the day 22-03-2013
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The one who is free from complaints is the one who becomes complete.
Projection: When things go wrong it is the usual reaction to complain, against
situations or others, and to find fault with them. When we are busy complaining
we will not be able to make any effort to make any improvement in ourselves.
Solution: Whenever we find ourselves complaining we need to see what we can
do to bring about a change instead of just complaining. There would surely be something
that we can do. Slowly as we begin to implement each thing that we learn, we find
ourselves moving forward towards our own perfection.
In Spiritual Service,
Brahma Kumaris